“Omg I have so many rolls in this position”
“What does it smell like down there”
“Do I look hot at this angle?”
Blah, blah, blah, blah. Bullshit.
It’s so common for women to be up in our heads when it comes to play time that we completely disconnect from our bodies & the pleasure of the present moment.
Something that we don't realise is that while our brain becomes clouded with these negative thoughts, the person we’re having fun with is just happy to be there & isn’t thinking about the way your body looks at all.
The greatest thing you can do to improve your confidence in the bedroom is to start learning to love & accept every inch of your beautiful body. The more confident you feel in your own skin, the sexier you will feel in the bedroom… which inevitably leads to better sex & who doesn’t want more of that?!
Here are 10 super simple ways to make you feel sexier in life & in the bedroom.
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Give yourself slow, sensual massages - grab some coconut oil, light some candles, play sexy music & slowly massage every inch of your body, expressing your gratitude for each body part.
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Connect with your pussy - grab a mirror & look at her up close & personal. Start talking to her daily & checking in with her wisdom when it comes to making decisions.
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Dance baby! - make a playlist filled with your favourite sexy songs & spend at least 10 minutes a day moving your hips & releasing your inner slut. This will help you get into your body & out of your head.
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Catch your negative thoughts - whether you are in the bedroom or out, catch yourself when you start to spiral into negative thoughts. Replace them with positive affirmations such as “I am learning to love & accept my body” or my personal favourite, “I am sexy as fuck!”
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Set a self love alarm - ensure this goes off every single day & when it does, open up your notes & write one thing you love about yourself & one thing you’re grateful for. Soon you’ll have a long list of things you love & appreciate in your life!
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Buy clothes that make you feel HOT - don’t underestimate the power of good clothing! Say goodbye to your old daggy t-shirts & hello to clothes that hug your body in all the right places & make you feel super sexy.
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Unfollow people that make you feel like crap - & start following body positive pages! Since you’re going to be sitting on Instagram anyways, make sure your feed is curated with pages that make you feel good about yourself. Cut out all the ones that don’t. Simple.
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Start doing mirror work - this is probably one of the most powerful things you can do. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself deeply in the eye & feel whatever emotions come up for you. Take it one step further by doing it completely naked.
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Get your flirt on honey - flirting is so much fucking fun & we don’t do enough of it. Have a harmless little flirt with your barista, your cute neighbour or just life in general! The more you flirt, the more it will come naturally to you.
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Hallelujah, masturbate! - in my opinion, self pleasure is one of the deepest forms of self love. It allows you to completely connect with your body, your pussy & open up to a world of pleasure at your own pace. The more you explore with yourself, the more you understand what turns you on which then leads to… you guessed it! Better sex.
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& never forget, that you are a fucking queen babe.
If you have any more questions please don’t hesitate to reach out! I am always happy to help & no question is off limits.
Written by Sophia Calvi
@sexytalkwithsophia